Saying Goodbye to My Dog

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This week I said goodbye to my best friend, my migraine fighter, my heart and my soul.

Words can’t express the painful, excruciating grief I feel wandering around my home without my shadow. I see her, I hear her, I feel her everywhere.

On her last day, we celebrated her 13th birthday a few weeks early. She left with a smile on her face, a belly full of treats and her tail wagging.

I will be pouring my love out for her when I’m ready.  I have so many things to say about this magical creature that blessed my life.

As for now, I could  use support.

There is a hole in my heart and everyday life. She made me a mom and has walked with me through the best and hardest years of my life.  If you’ve followed me or known me at all, you know Lucia was my smile, my healer, and soul.

If you have any advice on how to take steps forward or support, I sure could use it.

mymigrainelife

I tell stories of My Migraine Life. I'm a mom, wife, teacher, and chronic migraine sufferer. I tell my stories and advocate in my life searching for health in a positive honest way.
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20 Comments

  1. Sonja Hagen Mohr on May 11, 2018 at 10:23 am

    So sorry for your difficult loss of your wonderful dog. Be kind to yourself. Allow yourself to be sad and make allowances for that. Hope you feel better as soon as humanely possible for you.



  2. Katie MacDonald on May 11, 2018 at 10:40 am

    I wish there was a magical way to heal the pain from a loss like this. I wish I could tell you the pain quickly subsides. Everyone grieves differently of course. I would only say that things like writing and looking at years of goofy photos can be somewhat cathartic. It’s been months since I lost my Maddie and I still talk to her or about her most days.
    Maddie was a Therapy Dog and ironically (or not) at our Therapy Dog annual meeting this year, they offered a session on Grieving for the loss of our pets. Many people spoke about how the loss of their furry friends was harder than the loss of many human losses they had previously experienced. It’s just an amazing bond we develop with these creatures.

    Here are some links they shared with us at that workshop:
    https://www2.vet.cornell.edu/about-us/outreach/pet-loss-support-hotline/resources-grieving
    http://petlosshelp.org/10commonquestions.html

    Sending you big hugs and happy memories of Lucia.



  3. headachesandhangnail on May 11, 2018 at 11:14 am

    I’m so very very sorry for your loss. Our dogs are such a huge support to us, our best friend, and when we’re mostly housebound, they can be the only living being we see for days at a time. The only advice I have is to let yourself grieve. Sure, some people will insist, ‘they are just dogs’ – oh how it infuriates me when people say that – but they are so much more, and you should take the time you need to grieve and to celebrate her. Share your happy stories about her. Look at pictures. Remember the good, the silly and the frustrating days with her. Cry, eat ice cream (or potato chips, they work too, as do chocolate bars), and let yourself wallow. In time it’ll get easier. Just be gentle with yourself and allow yourself time to adapt. I’ll remember you in my prayers.



  4. mymigrainelife on May 11, 2018 at 11:54 am

    Thank you.



  5. mymigrainelife on May 11, 2018 at 12:03 pm

    Thank you so much Katie. You have been such a comfort to me. There’s not many people who live each day in your home, which is why it feels so different. She’s in every inch of my home and memory. She’s lived my best days with me but also my worst. The days in the dark with Migraine are endless and she fought through every one with me. She gave me love that no human could give.



  6. mymigrainelife on May 11, 2018 at 12:11 pm

    Thank you for your words. They are so meaningful and true. I appreciate your support. “Migraines are just headaches” and “dogs are just dogs” are the most ridiculous and heartless statements. If they’ve truly experience either they’d never know.



  7. Invisibly Me on May 11, 2018 at 12:21 pm

    My heart broke just reading this. I was devastated when we had to put our dog down after he’d struggled for some time and that was around 5 years ago now but it still hurts to think of him. I’m so, so sorry – there’s nothing that will make it hurt any less right now but take comfort in knowing she was so truly loved, had a wonderful life and your memories of Lucia will live on, she’ll never totally be gone from your life. Sending love and hugs your way  ♥ ♥
    Caz xx



  8. mymigrainelife on May 11, 2018 at 12:53 pm

    Thank you. Your words are truly comforting. They really are.



  9. Silentfury on May 12, 2018 at 2:54 am

    I so wish there were words to express the sorrow I feel for the hole left in your heart by the passing of your doggy. There is no amount of compassion that I can offer that feels as though it helps. I have been in the place where you are and I hope that these words bring some comfort to you as you mourn this major loss.
    ~Nikki



  10. mymigrainelife on May 12, 2018 at 7:16 am

    Your words do bring me comfort. It is an int new time of just pure missing my best friend. I hope with time it gets better.



  11. Sheryl Chan on May 14, 2018 at 12:28 am

    I’m so very sorry to hear this 🙁 I recently lost one of my favourite birds too, but it was barely a year old and not 13. The grief must be indescribable 🙁 Ang in there and message me anytime you need a listening ear xxx



  12. Claire Saul (PainPalsBlog) on May 14, 2018 at 6:40 am

    I am struggling to say anything to you as my dog, Samson, is 16ish and really not terribly well….we are treating him palliatively & deciding whether we should do another vet’s trip this week, but your post has just really brought it home to me. The tears are here for you and for me, and I can’t give you any advice right now….except those of us with pets know that these lovely creatures are so much more than animals, particularly for us spoonies….sending lots of love xxxx



  13. mymigrainelife on May 14, 2018 at 6:46 am

    Thank you



  14. mymigrainelife on May 14, 2018 at 6:47 am

    They are SO much more than friends. I’m sorry you are going through such a difficult time also. It is so hard!!!!!



  15. simplyshannonagins on May 14, 2018 at 6:52 pm

    I’ve had to say goodbye to a dog, a cat, and a horse and it just never gets easier. And I have one elderly Aussie shepherd that will probably be leaving this world in the next year or so. And it just never gets easier. I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. Sending you love and spoons!



  16. mymigrainelife on May 14, 2018 at 7:04 pm

    Thank you!Extra love and spoons are appreciated!



  17. Hello! on May 14, 2018 at 8:47 pm

    I am so sorry – I think being kind to yourself and giving it time as well – the cliches are pretty much true. My fur baby passed a few years ago now and it took a year to heal. It’s different for everyone – there is no right way to grieve (another true cliche!) Lowen @ livingpositivelywithdisability.com



  18. mymigrainelife on May 14, 2018 at 9:26 pm

    Thank you. It’s so true. Being kind to myself and time.



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